Signs, Symptoms, and the Insanity of Getting Older and Facing Menopause

  Menopause is time in a woman’s life when her periods (menstration) eventually stop and the body goes through changes that no longer allow her to get pregnant. It is a natural event that normally occurs in women age 45 – 55.  Naturally occurs?  There is nothing natural about breaking into a sweat while standing still in a cold shower.

     I am a 44 year old woman in what medical experts call peri-menopause.  Which seems to be a test run of menopause.  I kid you not, when I go to bed at night in a room that is kept at a chilly 62 degrees in the winter, I will wake up in a pool of my own sweat having to change my t-shirt and underwear and put a dry blanket down.  This on top of the fact that it took me a good two hours to fall asleep!

One of my favorite symptoms is the moodiness…I can go from perfectly happy to tears in less than one second.  My two older sons, I believe, may be plotting with my husband to build me a padded room with no sharp instruments and a built in air conditioner (which actually sounds quite peaceful and calming).  Give me a fridge and a TV and I won’t come out until menopause is over, unless, of course, I have to pee.  That leads us into the next symptom, urine leakage.  Now I don’t believe this is really a symptom of menopause but instead is due to the fact that I have squeezed four melon sized heads out of a very tiny opening.  If I cough – I pee, if I sneeze – I pee, if I laugh – I pee, if we hit a bump in the road – I pee, cry – pee, yell – pee, go upstairs – pee…you get the picture.  Just a word of advice have lots of extra underwear on hand or buy stock in panty liners.  You would think that after all the peeing and sweating that women would end up dehydrated – no such luck.

     Let’s chat about fatigue or being dog tired, which is kind of a pain because you can be extremely tired and still have an issue falling asleep.  I am not completely convinced that my weariness has anything to do with menopause but more instead due to 9 pets, a husband, and 4 very busy children.  However, I can say that I can be seriously tired and still struggle with falling asleep.  This is why I always have a bottle of melatonin on hand as it is a natural supplement that assists one in sleeping.  Since we are discussing sleep, which normally takes place in the bedroom bringing up sex drive seems to be the next symptom to discuss.  I have not experienced this at all but I do have friends who are dealing with this problem.  My suggestion is to go see your doctor and let them know because there are supplements that you can take to help you get this drive back, that is if you are not too tired to actually go to the doctor.

     The last symptom I am going to discuss is irregular periods and worsening premenstrual syndrome.  I have really never dealt with the latter but the irregular periods are seriously annoying. It is like a practical joke your body plays on you.  You are in your room picking out your clothes for the day; you grab the light colored skinny jeans because there is no bloating and the white lace undies with the matching bra.  You decide against the bulky sweatshirt and go with the form fitting shirt – while looking in the mirror you decide to wear your hair down.  When you go to grab your brush you realize that your “lady drawer” is running low…no worries you feel great and your friend just left a week ago.  Time to hit the mall with your bestie!  As you are walking into your favorite store – IT HITS!  The cramps come and you race to the mall bathrooms, which are clear on the other side.  You shuffle your feet because you are trying to hold it in by squeezing your legs together.  Once in the bathroom you dread what you are going to find.  Your whole demeanor changes as you wash your hands after dropping your undies in the trash.  At home you take off the skinny jeans, put your hair up, find your sweatpants and the bulky sweatshirt.  Let the moodiness begin!!!!

  On top of all of these lovely symptoms you also have to deal with getting older which includes gray hair, whiskers (yes you read correctly) on your chin, difficulty losing weight, having to stop for a break after going up a flight of stairs, making those noises older (face it you are the older) people make when getting out of a chair or bed, choosing the comfortable shoes instead of the stylish ones because your bunions are sore, and straining a muscle while you are sitting absolutely still.

     There are days when I am in my third hot flash, crying at the insurance commercial in front of me – tired and bloated – that I think all of this is due to the fact that Eve just had to take a bite out of that damn apple – if it had been chocolate I would be a tad more understanding but an apple is so not worth it. 

About The Author


Mom of 5 amazing kids, married to Shawn, retired teacher of 19 years, cares for a total of 9 pets (3 frisky cats and 6 great-tempered dogs), daughter, really amateur photographer, photoshopper, a football, wrestling, track, baseball, dance, and tumbling mom, zazzle designer, constant dieter, handles the budget, hates to cook, addicted to coffee, trying-to-quit smoker, TV potato, and passionate about writing.


  1. Adelemamabrown | 21st Jul 14

    I am so sorry, that doesn’t sounds fun. It sounds a lot like being pregnant with all of the moodiness. I would just keep repeating, “This too shall end”

    • tamarasuz | 22nd Jul 14

      I try to find the humor in it. Although the men in my house tend to run and hide when I am in the moody stages.

  2. Life with the Grothe's | 22nd Jul 14

    Menopause sucks, I have been going thru it for almost 2 years, due to a major surgery I had a few years ago, I am only 31 🙁

    • tamarasuz | 22nd Jul 14

      Oh no… I am so sorry. My mom dealt with that around your age as well. It does suck but if I don’t laugh at it I will be crying for the next 5 years.

  3. Tricia The Good Mama | 23rd Jul 14

    Oh man, woman sure have it tough! I agree with a previous commenter that said it sounds a lot like pregnancy. Hang in there!

    • tamarasuz | 23rd Jul 14

      Tricia it is a lot like being pregnant, but it lasts far longer than 9 months. Humor and being able to laugh about it, makes it so much easier.

  4. Emma @ P is for Preschooler | 25th Jul 14

    Ugh, so this is what I have to look forward to! I agree with commenter tamarasuz – at least you can keep your sense of humor about it!

  5. Joanna Sormunen | 25th Jul 14

    I’m getting close to my 40th birthday and probably to perimenopausia also. Since my mom had it early. Not really looking forward to it but I guess it’s better sooner than later, or not at all…

    • tamarasuz | 25th Jul 14

      I am all for things happening naturally…but there are days it seems to hit all at once. Laughing about it, makes it so much easier to deal with.

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